What traits are considered unattractive? Which traits are typically seen as attractive and why?
07.06.2025 21:14
Narcissism, through the “It is all about me, the whole world revolves around me and my vagina, you are shit in comparison to me” is an unattractive trait in women. If I am to get with someone, I don't want to be taken for granted, nor be seen as shit in comparison to her, it doesn't fly with me. We are equals in love with each-other or bust.
Finally, going to each-others houses to just chill as friends, not platonic friends mind you, I mean like anything goes potential friends with benefits, if I want it, but I am a shy guy, who is slow at getting messages if she does come onto me, as she literally has to tell me she wants to have sex without whispering it, just flat out say it, while muting the volume, as I never pick up on it and I am deaf over loud sounds such as music or people talking in shows, as I cannot hear whispering, unless it is loud whispering, as the only way I would pick up on it otherwise, is if she was playing with herself wearing underwear, as we were distracted playing video games where my eyes are on the screen, and she told me to sit comfortable and undress down to my boxers, and whipped out my penis through my boxers and shoved my dick in her pussy, then I would get it and instantaneously be attracted to her, going from potential relationships being there, to just a full on immediate relationship, right there and then, then I would take it seriously, attraction that just used to be sexual tension through liking her, now instantaneous attraction immediately.
Kindness, going out of her way to help me, helping me cook, clean, anything really that makes my life a little easier and less stressful, out of the kindness of her heart, this touches my heart and makes me think of having children with her, as a potential woman I want to raise a loving family with, as this makes me very attracted to her. Absolutely under no circumstances will I have her do chores for me, or I will feel guilty, and have to make it up to her somehow, feeling in debted to her, and I don't want go through that, as I perfer we always do everything together so the guilt doesn't override my conscience.
I only know the male perspective on this topic alone, but know this, all men are different, these are my preferences, as not all guys share the same preferences. So here goes:
Unattractive traits:
Talking about luxuries instead of appreciating what we have. If she wants a better things, I will get what I can manage by what I got, don't expect the very best, then get disappointed towards me because I cannot obtain it. I don't want to obtain it if that is how you are going to look at it, be happy with what you got, I may improve it if I am happy and enspired enough to, you just got to promise no matter how much the bumpy road, if I do, you will always stick by my side, because what is awaiting on that road is a large hill with lots of speed bumps of doubters and stupid people, only to play their stupid games and prove them wrong, just for them to call me an asshole and say “Welcome aboard, now get to work!”. As long as she is by my side the whole time, I will get through that hill no problem, knowing she will always say “Everything is going to be okay, I believe in you, you got this, you aren't wrong, they are for doubting you, so never give up”, as those words are enough along with a good heartfelt loving hug will get me through the threshold.
Talking about all the men she had sex with and going into details about it, after having sex with her, I don't want to hear it. That, and trying to compare me to her exes, it makes me lose interest pretty fast. I am not one of her exes, I am new and I am a different breed of man. I am a loyalist and the adventurous type who loves the outdoors, theme parks, surfing, I love to compete for fun, and my heart is above my shoulders as I feel guilty about having sex right afterwards and feel grateful for the sex, to want to make it up by being better in bed next time we do have sex, by aiming for her sweet spot instead of just doing it normally to make up for it, so the guilt subsides, that way she doesn't feel cheated that she didn't cum too, so I hate it when they compare me, mainly because they haven't seen the full side of me yet. Given enough saved money and I will show her it.
Acting like a superficial robot who is shallow and cold, no personality or character, like she is better than me.
If I do have a friend who happens to be a woman and she tells me to take off my pants and get comfortable, I will do it, thinking she just wants me to be comfortable over at her house, as I wouldn't think anything of it, as seeing her in her underwear, I would think she is just trying to be fair with me to just relax and take it easy, as sexual thoughts would pour into my mind, but I would ignore them and just play video games with her thinking she just wants me to be comfortable. If I stand up having to go to the bathroom and have an erection sticking out of my boxers, I will tell her the truth that it us a normal reaction when I am with a woman with her underwear, just to ignore it as I tuck it back in my boxers. If she asked if it is because I want to have sex with her, I won't lie and say “yes, but only if you want to, as we don't have to”, I am hung, with a big fat long uncircumcised cock, so that would likely cross her mind from the moment she saw it, so I have no doubt she would get horny thoughts while I was in the bathroom taking a piss.
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The fastest way for a woman to get me to become attracted to her immediately instantaneously is for her to come on really strong being all “I want you inside me” sexual, and grinding her pussy on my cock through our clothes, and whipping my cock out and pulling down her pants, spitting on my dick, and shoving it in her pussy as she grinds away rough and hard, while taking off all her top clothes like a wild horny goddess wanting it all natural as it will put a visual memory in my head after we have sex three times, as I won't be able to erase the erotic image out of my head, as I constantly think about her when I am alone, as the visual memory keeps coming back, making me really horny, as by the 3rd day of masturbating thinking about her and that moment we had together, I will develope strong romantic feelings for her, so next time we have sex, I will be making love with her from the heart. I am a sucker for strong desperate erotic seduction from a woman, as my mind never forgets it, making me believe I am in love with her.
That's it.
Attractive traits:
Why is it so hard to date nowadays?
Wanting me to go join her in events, as she calls me up and invites me to go places with her. That touches my heart deeply and makes me really attracted to her, like she is inviting me to be apart of her world, therefore it makes me feel accepted and in turn making me, instead of minding my own business, want to be a part of her world, in turn making me really interested in her, feeling as though it is not the same without her, so if I show up and she isn't there, I won't feel right, like it is wrong unless she is there with me, as I feel out of place without her there, as when she is there, it completes my heart and world, it is hard to explain.
Talking about cum, spit, piss, poop, vomit, or any bodily fluids and excrement, as it is okay to talk about it, just don't let it be the only thing she ever talks about. I am into weirdos of women, just not those types of weirdos because it makes me subconscious of ruining my appetite. Also talking about going bald, I don't care if I date a bald woman if she has a great character and personality to boot, but for some reason whenever women mention going bald, it makes me dizzy, light headed, and completely uncomfortable, as the attraction lessens, the more she speaks about it. It makes me think of getting old, decaying away, and dying like a flowers petals, which makes me feel ill.